I always wonder the meaning of “love” in a phrase “weaning with love”. It said that you weaned your child gradually and with affection.
First time I tried to wean my son when he was 2 years old. I follow everything about weaning with love. But it failed. I saw that the process of weaning made my son heartbroken. He cried so much. It also affected his character. He used to be all cheery and happy, but he became cranky and irritable. He changed so much. It went on for more than 2 weeks. Maybe he’s not ready. So I breastfeed him again. For 1 year later I keep trying to weaned my son, but it always failed. Either it made his character changed, or his speech development regressed.
When my son was 3 years old, I try to weaned him again. This time, I really emphasize that I do this not because I don’t love him. He seemed to understand better than he was 2 years old. Every single day me and my husband keep telling my son that we love him sooo much, followed by numerous kisses and hugs. In just 3 months, my son made it. He’s finally weaned.
It finally hit me that weaning is really all about LOVE. When we breastfeeding our child, we keep them really close to us, so they can feel our warmth and comfort. Our child must have felt really loved. When they are weaned, maybe they feel like our love was taken, that we don’t love them anymore. Constant reminder that we love them so much will make the weaning process more bearable for our children. Because of course we will always love them, and they need to know that they will always be loved.